Hello!
Hello, I’m Kai! Here is how I prefer to keep in touch and why.
Most of the following only applies for people I actually know. If you don’t know me, you are welcome to send me an email.
Modes of contact
My favorite way to converse is in person. Let’s get coffee sometime if we can!
I enjoy talking in real time. Give me a call if you want to say hi, no heads up necessary, and I’ll do my best to accommodate it, either right then, or at my earliest convenience if I am unavailable at the time of calling.
For maximum availability and minimum response time in both calling and messaging, Signal is the way to go. It bypasses my do-not-disturb on my phone, which is on most of the time, and I keep it running on my computer as well.
I check my email pretty regularly. Please feel free to message.
I like to use RSS to keep up with what my friends are up to, for those who are cool enough to have RSS feeds.
I think traditional mail is quite cool! Please feel free to ask for my address if you wish to send me a letter.
I will use instant messaging for convenience, but prefer the above methods if given the option.
If you need my contact and do not already have it, please send me an email asking for my digits.
Platforms
I prefer to communicate over Signal or Matrix, due to their open source nature, and end to end encryption support. I will also use SMS if necessary, though prefer the former options due to the relative insecurity of SMS and its related protocols.
I frequently showcase what I’m up to on my blog here. I intend to move as much of my online presence to my website as I can.
I do not use Instagram or Discord. I may check them infrequently; Do not rely on this happening for me to get your message.
Etiquette
You are welcome and encouraged to “double text” (send me back-to-back unrelated messages) me as much as you wish. I will answer everything once I get the time to do so.
Tone indicators are welcome, especially if I don’t know you super well.
I do not expect immediate responses to my messages, excluding time sensitive or urgent ones; Respond when convenient.
Don’t worry about read receipts. People are more complicated than a “I saw your message” Boolean. If you’ve read my message and haven’t responded, there are many valid reasons for this, up to and including “I don’t have the energy to communicate right now, but would like to read this anyway.” Again, I don’t care; respond when convenient.
For me specifically, if the read receipt says I have read your message, but I haven’t responded for a while, please feel free to send another message to remind me that this message exists. This likely means that I either told myself that I would respond later and forgot due to the missing “unread” marker, or half-finished my response, and had to stop midway through, resulting in the same final outcome.
When sending me a miscellaneous link, generally make sure the result is viewable in a web browser without an account. This includes links to twitter posts and tiktok videos, among others. I will not be able to view these, and I will not be getting an app, account, or logging in to view the thing. If you wish to share it, instead consider downloading, screenshotting, or otherwise capturing a local copy that can be shared directly.
Avoid sending me LLM/ Generative model output. I do not want to read words nobody has bothered to write. I do not want to look at images nobody has bothered to create. Instead, consider sending me a rambling mess of words, or your shittiest MS Paint/GIMP/Krita drawing.
Do not summarize my messages or ideas with a LLM. I choose my words and communication deliberately for a reason. There is value in reading a message as it was written.
When in doubt, communication is always better than no communication. I would rather hear “I hate your guts and I would rather eat raw chicken than talk to you ever again” than silence.
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